There are a TON of “hook-up” and “dating” apps out there right now and it’s almost overwhelming. I’ve been on many of them for the past 1, 2, 3…5 years, and it’s pretty much been the same thing over and over. You “match”, hang out, maybe even date for a little bit and then it never really becomes anything. Obviously, that’s not the case for everyone. There are a few people out there who’ve been lucky enough to find their love using these apps, but see…
I’m different…or just like everybody else, depending on whoever you ask, I guess…
We see a smorgasbord of opportunity and the FOMO gets real. The ease of swiping right has presented this conundrum of being able to meet the one you really click with, but then, you just don’t stop there. You keep going and keep matching and honestly just get the pleasure of matching with people you think that are attractive. What’s the Pringle’s slogan? “Once you pop, you can’t stop”? Yeah, that’s pretty much Tinder; For me, anyway.
So, the experiment…
Match with one person at a time…
Yes…It’s just that simple!. Swipe until I swipe right and match with one person, and then genuinely have a conversation until I determine if they are right or wrong for me. Easy enough right? OH! and I’m not allowed to swipe right on anyone who doesn’t have anything in their “About Me”.
Sounds like a piece of cake right? Well….there are rules and the Official Rules are as follows:
- Only have a conversation with one person at a time!
- Being that people don’t always auto-match with whomever you swipe right on, I’m giving myself up to 3 right swipes in a 24 hour period. (I will be working on the Honor System lol).
- The 3 right swipe rule may cause some problems being that if I swipe right three times and they all end up coming back as matches. If this ever happens, at that time I must make a decision on who I want to focus on and unmatch the other people.
- However, if one of the 3 matches messages me first, I must respond to them. I can still keep the other matches in my queue at that point, but I must make a decision on if I will pursue further within a day.
- I cannot swipe right on someone with no details in their “About Me”.
- I’m able to swipe right on individuals who have just one sentence in their “About Me”, but it has to catch my eye and not be some boring ass shit.
- If there’s any doubt on the person I’m looking at, I HAVE TO Swipe Left on them. It could be the sexiest person in the world; If there’s doubt, swipe left. (Reason being is because that doubt will cause me to continue swiping, sequentially breaking my first rule. Especially if I run out of right swipes for the day).
- If I match with someone, send a message, and no communication is made within 24 hours, I am free to unmatch, and continue to swipe right and start another conversation.
- Once there has been three consecutive days of no contact, even after having genuine conversation, I MUST unmatch to keep things tidy and avoid conversing with multiple people at the same time.
(Note: I know these rules aren’t fool proof, and there are some inconsistencies/contradictions, but I’m working on it!)
Most people, myself included, would continue to swipe right until the end of time and end up matching with endless amounts of people. Then, in most cases, people will let them sit there and just wait for their matches to fight for our attention until we find a worthy person to meet. But that brings up another concern though. There are SO MANY people on Tinder that nobody gives genuine attention because you have Jimmy, Timmy and Bob over there in your DMs thirsty as hell and ready to go.
This is a terrible approach if you want to genuinely and seriously date. So this is why I’ve come up with this experiment…and it’s more so a test for myself, really.
And yes, I know that the other party I match with will probably not be doing the same thing but hopefully I’m interesting enough to gain their attention, keep it and hopefully they’ll keep mine as well. I don’t want to be 39 still swiping on these dumb applications because I’m worried about the next one. I refuse!
But there are some possible/realistic setbacks…
- I am at peak swipe mode while drinking and for you all that know me, know I love my beer.
- I get bored SUPER easily, which is one reason why I continue to swipe even after matching.
- I’m super picky. This could be a good thing, but also could be a bad thing. Like, I feel like I’d stop talking to someone because I still have that FOMO looming. Almost as if I’d just make an excuse to unmatch and swipe on to the next one.
Sure, I already hear “Your first problem is trying to find love on an app! Go out to a club or bar or something”. First of all, I am not asking for your opinion on this in the first place. I’ve met plenty of people out in public and it’s hard given the fact that people only want to go home with you at the end of the night instead of genuinely getting to know you.
So here it is…resetting my Tinder for the fifty-leventh time! Let’s see how this goes. Be sure to check for updates!