Here you are, just out and about, having the time of your life. Not caring about anything in the world other than yourself, because why? You’re single…..AF!
In the times of the dating apps, where people are doing anything but; you often find yourself bored. Ok, let’s pick up the phone, open up an app, say a few one liners, call someone over and wam, bam, you’re done and you’ve spent no money. Perfect scenario, amirite? Especially if you don’t have to put any work into it either!?!? Bruh, come on. (Sidenote: I’m a top tier advocate for getting it in on a regular basis, just saying. We’re all human. As long as you’re
safe, maintaining good sexual health practices!)
And then it happens….One of those “convenient hookups” starts feeling like something more. You actually talk to them other than when you just need some, and go out in public with each other (which is probably the number 1 indicator this is a “thing”). Then you start thinking, “Are we dating?”, “Is this serious?”, “Do they like me like that?”. As soon as those thoughts cross your mind, you automatically open up to feelings and your heart starts to become vulnerable. This freaks you out because you’ve been through this before and other times it never became anything because again, you just met on a hookup app. “Don’t catch feelings, they don’t feel the same way” constantly runs through your mind. Or maybe you do want to catch feelings. I mean, that’s the point in dating right? Unfortunately, it all becomes a mind game. Trying to figure out your partner’s next move. “Are they really into you?” is still running through your mind even though you’ve been chilling for weeks. Their actions say yes, their words say yes, but you still have that little bit of doubt running through your brain.
Luckily for you though, dating is pretty much the bomb at this point. No effort to get some. Yall both like to eat, and go to the movies together. You got your ride or die. The bond is still new so you know yall on each other like rabbits (lol). You have engaging conversations, and text messages don’t take ten years to be responded to. You feel wanted, and that’s all anyone needs, right?
And then it happens…
All this time you’ve spent, and then BOOM, they disappear. Who knows for what reason. It “just didn’t work out”, or it was “just a temporary thing”, or “well, I wasn’t really looking for anything serious”, and at this point, you’re back to square 1; Over it, completely.
And this is where the cycle begins again. You promise yourself, you’ll be single for YEARS (Spoiler: You won’t), and you build those walls that were broken down “one. last. time.” So what do you do? Download the hookup app again. What other place to go get your ego stroked after you’ve wasted your time dating? It definitely helps. Probably unhealthy though, but whatever….You’ve put up walls again.
So yeah, Dating IS the worst….